The One Year Exit Plan

This is probably the last time I will use the word "Infertility."

The negativity of the word alone keeps both men and women from seeking help, talking about their lives with friends and loved ones, and most of all continues to feed into the negative self-talk that each of us battles with from time to time. I find that it is one of the most callous and demeaning words used by the healthcare industry.

After years of consciously avoiding creating life, the shift to Consciously Creating Life has as many if not more challenges. Some women are blessed (when the least expect it) with a child. For others like me it takes a conscious, consistent and determined outlook to choose how to, and when to create a family. This year I'm choosing to share with you how I am consciously creating life, my own as well as the one within.

Typically, my role as personal coach is to help others find, formulate and execute their One Year Exit Plans. Many of my clients needs revolve around mothers-to-be, new career moves, or how to create new healthy lifestyles. During my sessions with clients a lot about how I have exited different stages of my life have often helped in the understanding and movement towards a clean exit and a fulfilling life. They get to see how defining values, setting intention, and acting on an exit plan can make things possible.Â

During the last two years I have learned a tremendous amount about my physical body. I've implemented various activities based on Western and Eastern medicine philosophies and explored new ways of being. I've also noticed how these changes resonate with the people around me. My friends tell me how they often feel calm and peaceful around me. Now, this is not by accident or just by me wanting to send this vibe into the world. This is me actively choosing to create the life I'm living by taking things a bit more seriously.  I say this cautiously because I don't want to give you the impression that I'm a rigid or stern woman but rather that I think and act as if EVERYTHING MATTERS. What I see, hear, feel, smell, and eat; who I see and spend time with; and how experience everything... Everything matters.Â

One area of improvement for me is journaling and sharing my experiences, so that I can grow and create an environment where others can also share. I've decided to record my personal journey of Consciously Creating Life through this blog. I'll include articles to inspire you; activities to practice like meditations and mantras; and other new habits to incorporate into your life. I will also want to share the more medical and intimate side of my fertility journey. I want to document the ups and downs in the hope that others can find inspiration and learning.Â

What this will not be is a bitch session. The one thing that upsets me most is the amount of negativity on discussion boards about fertility and how easily we can get caught in that trap. That said there may be times where sadness, upset, and anger are essential to express, contemplate and explore. What's not OK to dwell in self-flagellation that ends in victimization. This blog is part of my experiment with Consciously Creating Life. Like other "Plans" it is not set in stone, but rather it's an experience of living my values, doing life aligned with those values, and experiencing the results.Â

Along the way, I'll be looking forward to hearing what you have to say about your fertility journey. Thank you for joining me and for challenging yourself to consciously create the life (lives) you want.Â